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A friend says loving-kindness meditation should start with picturing someone you love, since sending kindness to yourself first feels too awkward. What does the traditional order actually teach?
It moves straight from loved ones to the difficult person you're in conflict with, skipping the neutral stranger stage.
Yourself, then loved ones, a neutral person, a difficult person, and finally all beings.
A loved one comes first, and you turn to yourself only afterward.